Sexually Inactive but
Enjoying Life
By Kurai Chitima
‘How shall a young person keep his/her way pure?’ This
question is perhaps more pressing today than when David raised it[1]. Imagine
a group of people who see no evil, hear no evil, think no evil, speak no evil and
do no evil. Such a group ends in your mind the reality is different. Advances
in information technology have made sex exposure possible on demand by anyone
with access to gadgets such as cell phones. Censorship programs have virtually
been made redundant. Young people are overwhelmed with varied views on sexual conduct.
Some views are wonderful but a lot are weird. Confusion
also comes from the fact that societal heroes and elders do not always model
values taught to young people. The biblical view on the subject has a great opportunity and must be heard. Often what we hesitate to talk about is what
causes the greatest damage if not said. The whole truth must be brought out in
order to achieve freedom[2] and
avert free doom. The truth is that it is possible to enjoy life righteously.
This is how you can do it:
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REJECT the lie that everyone else is involved in
sex outside marriage. You are not alone[3]. Many God fearing and principled people are not involved.
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REVERSE peer pressure. Do not just resist or become
a victim of peer pressure. Take your values to your peers.
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RESPECT yourself and others. A person who really
loves you will respect you to wait. Indulging does not strengthen your
relationship or prove you love or are loved[4]. Many
are hurt and wounded because they opened up to someone only to be abused and
dumped.
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RELATE well with others. Develop healthy
relationships that will in due time lead to marriage[5].
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RESTRAIN your desires by wisdom[8] and
bring sexual passions under control. Set
boundaries for yourself.
o Avoid
things/situations that expose you to temptation or entrapment. This includes
certain places, books, music, movies, websites, etc. Flee youthful lusts. Set godly boundaries for
yourselves[9].
o Understand
gender differences and effect. Getting too emotional and physically close to
someone of the opposite sex, and being in closed up or isolated places together have implications. The way you
present yourself – e.g dressing, and sitting, can affect you and others on upholding moral
standards.
o Develop
social networks that influence you positively. Bad company corrupts good
morals.
o Have
life goals you passionately pursue. Without vision, you lack restrain. As the
traditional saying goes, an idle mind is the devils workshop.
o Do
not trust yourself[10]. Let
him who thinks he stands take hid lest he falls
o Have
godly people close to you who can hold you accountable in this area. Receive
godly advice from parents and mentors. Without accountability, there is no discipline.
o Manage
properly your physical wellness, eating habits, and whatever affects your
self-control.
o Think
consequences. There are eternal as well as earthly consequences for sexual misconduct.
Risky behavior in this area puts your life in the line of danger for no cause. It is a major derailer of personal dreams and
contributions to society. It also is a source of mistrust and other marital
problems in future. It hinders ability to walk in the fullness of God’s love
and purpose.
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REFUSE to be conformed to unbiblical patterns. Be
richly indwelt by the word of God[11]. The
word builds your faith and spiritual strength to overcome. Be quick to turn
from tempting thoughts before they develop roots and germinate as sinful
behavior. Trust God’s intentions[12]. His
rules are for your protection.
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[1] Psalm 119:9-11
[2] John 8:32
[3] 1 Kings 19:10, 18
[4] 2 Samuel 13:14, 15
[5] 1 Corinthians 7:2
[6]
www.spform.blogspot.com/2012/10/who-am-i-new-identity-in-christ.html
[7] Romans 6:11, Titus 2:11-12;
2 Corinthians 5: 10, 17
[8] James 1:5, Proverbs 1;
2:10-22
[9] Genesis 39:12, 1 Corinthians 6:18, 1 Timothy 6:11; 2
Timothy 2:22
[10] Galatians 6:1-2
[11] Romans 12:1-2; Colossians
3:16; Matthew 4:4
[12] Jeremiah 29:1
[13] 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
[14] 1 John 1:9; 2:1
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